The Art of Approaching

(Rick Simeone) #1

The people who ignore their mistakes or write them off are destined to make the same
mistake time and time again.


When it comes to women – that’s what most men do.


Most guys keep making the same dating mistakes over and over again, and NEVER
learning from them. They start to focus on avoiding mistakes all together because its
either too embarrassing for them or too painful.


But by avoiding mistakes, they avoid experience, and they end up either isolating
themselves from women, or experiencing relationship-based pain time and time again.


But there is an Art to making mistakes. It’s an art that allows you to stumble and fall, but
pick yourself back up again and be better for it.


The first thing that happens after you make a mistake is that you become upset.
Everyone who makes a mistake gets upset that they made one. In fact, being upset is the
first indication that you did, in fact, make a mistake.


It’s at this point, when you’re upset, that you find out what kind of man you really are.


At the moment of being upset, we tend to become one of five characters who are brought
to center stage when mistakes occur.


The first is The Liar.


The liar will say things like “I didn’t do that.” Or “No, no, no. It wasn’t me.” Or “I
don’t know what you’re talking about.” Or “Prove it.” They try to act like the mistake
didn’t happen, and they had no involvement in it.


The second is The Blamer.


The blamer will say thing like: “It’s all your fault, not mine.” Or “I’ve been tricked!”
Or “These techniques are stupid.” Or “That girl was a bitch.” The blamer tries to offset
his guilt and anger over the mistake by placing it on other people. The blamer looks to
avoid responsibility for his own actions.


The third is The Justifier.


The justifier says things like: “Well, I’m not good looking, so that’s why I don’t get
girls.” Or “If I had more money, I could get really beautiful girls.” Or “Oh, I didn’t
really like her anyway.” The justifier looks to rationalize his problems away and act like
the ability to change is something beyond his control.


The fourth is The Quitter.


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