“I don’t know,” he responded. “Women just don’t seem to go for me.”
“How can that be?” I asked. “You’re such a funny guy! You must have girls rolling in
the isles when you meet them.”
“Well, not really,” lamented Marty.
“Why not?” I asked.
“Well, I don’t really like to do my shtick when I meet a girl, because then they expect me
to be ON all the time, and sometimes I don’t feel like being an entertainer. I’m much
funnier when I’m relaxed and not expected to perform.”
“But you perform all time,” I said. “You do that for a living.”
“Yeah, but that’s different. When I get on stage, I’m prepared, I know what to do. When
I get off stage, I don’t want to be pressured to be funny. I want the girl I’m with to like
me for me, not for my comedy.”
“But see, that’s you’re problem right there,” I said. “You’re trying to disassociate your
humor with who you are, and that’s just not the case. Being funny is part of who you are,
not the other way around.”
“What do you mean?” Marty asked.
“You’re a funny guy,” I said. “I’ve enjoyed talking to you all this time over dinner and
you obviously haven’t been using any pre-canned material or jokes. You’re just being
relaxed and having a good time. But when it comes to women, you’re trying to say that
your humor is something separate from your true personality, that its something you can
turn on and off, and that’s just not the case.”
“Well, every time I meet a girl at a comedy club I perform in and we go out, it’s like she
expects to be dating the guy she sees on stage. But I’m not that guy. That’s a character I
create for my act, and as soon as I stop being that character, she loses interest.”
“Yeah, that may be so, but she doesn’t lose interest for the reason you think she does.”
“How so?” asked Marty.
“See, from what you just told me, when you go out on a date with the women you meet at
these comedy clubs, you stop being funny! They’re looking to go out with a guy they
think is fun and exciting, and instead you suppress the part of you they were attracted to
in the first place because you look at it as something artificial, when it really isn’t. It’s
just like rich guys who don’t want to tell women they’re rich.”
“What do you mean by that?”
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