“Well, most guys who have lots of money don’t like to tell women how much money
they have. The reason for this is that they want the women to like them for their
personality instead of their wealth. But they don’t realize their wealth is part of who they
are.”
“But isn’t that a valid concern?” Marty asked. “Wouldn’t you want a woman who’s
attracted to you instead of your money?”
“There you go again,” I said. “You’re splitting hairs, trying to segment part of who a
person is. See, there’s a reason rich guys are rich, funny guys are funny, famous guys are
famous, and so forth. And when you try to separate those reasons from who you are,
women don’t really get the full picture of YOU.
Let’s take the rich guy, for example. Let’s say you have a guy who makes $250,000 a
year, drives a nice car, lives in a nice house, has nice clothes, the whole nine yards. And
maybe he’s dated a few women who took advantage of him and he lost a lot of money
and got his heart broken, so he says to himself ‘I have to find a girl who’s not into my
money.’
But here’s the thing – no such women exists. The ability for a man to provide for the
woman he’s with is always a factor when women date another man. Unless he actually
goes broke, he’ll never find a woman who’ll be with him for reasons other than money.
But more than that, there’s a reason why he’s a guy who makes a big fat paycheck and
lives in a big home with lots of fancy toys. There’s a reason behind his big bank account.
It could be that he’s a smart investor, or a hard worker, or risk taker. There are parts of
his personality that allowed him to be rich.
When he says he wants to find a woman who’s not into him for his money, what he’s
really saying is he wants to find a woman who’s not into him for the parts of himself that
allow him to be rich.
And when he does that, what’s left?”
“The stuff that holds him back?” Marty said.
“Exactly,” I replied. “So the women he dates don’t really get a full picture of who he is,
because they’re just seeing the hum-drum boring parts he allows them to see, and they
think the only thing this guy has going for him is his money anyway – because they see
his car and house and clothes and know regardless. But at that point, unless she’s a stone
cold gold digger, most women will move on and try to find a guy they enjoy being with
more than him.”
“And the ones that stick around are the gold diggers who just want his money anyway,”
said Marty.
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