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12. When you’re ready, and by that we mean when you feel you have
    released the negative emotions, float back to location 1.

Go only as fast as your unconscious mind can learn from similar events
and let go of all the associated emotions.

13. Come back down into the room.


14. Just test – go into the future to when an event would have triggered
    the emotions you let go, and notice that the emotions have gone.

If you don’t get the results you hoped for, you may need to ask your uncon-

scious mind to present you with the reason why you haven’t let go of the emo-

tions. The best time for this is when you’re dropping off to sleep, are deeply

relaxed, or meditating. If you don’t get an answer that you understand, you

may need to work with a coach or therapist to clear issues from your past that

are stopping you from getting the results you want.

This exercise can also be used for getting rid of a limiting decision. For exam-

ple, you may have decided to stay poor or unhealthy, or made some other

self-defeating decision such as ‘I can never be truly successful.’ Follow the

above process, using the limiting decision in place of the negative emotions.

Finding forgiveness

With hindsight and maturity you can forgive people from your past. Such

forgiveness allows you to release all the energy you had invested in resent-

ment, anger, or other negative emotions. You can then move on and use that

energy to be more creative or loving or anything positive you may want. One

useful way to accomplish forgiveness is to understand the motives of the

people who hurt you and realise that, because of their own issues, they were

operating from a reality that provided very limited options.

As an example, imagine that you had a burning desire to become an actor

and your parents gave you a hard time about it. Now acknowledge that they

were actually showing parental concern for you. They were doing their best

for you with the resources they had at their disposal. Go back along your

time line to when you can remember one such difficult time with your par-

ents. You can then hover above your time line while you learn any important

lessons that you needed to be aware of. You can float down into the event

and give your parents a hug and let them know that you realise now that they

were doing their best for you. If you find it easy, you can surround yourself in a

bubble of light and just enjoy the feelings of love, compassion, and forgiveness.