I have kids and they’re number one in my life because my par-
ents raised me to understand the importance of family.” Now,
he knows you’re one of those good girls—sweet, responsible,
and family oriented. If he’s not that guy, he’ll move on to the
next woman—the one with no requirements who’s down for
whatever. But if he’s a man who shares your belief in the im-
portance of family, he’s going to keep talking to you, and listen
for more of your standards.
Here are a few more examples I’ve laid out for you so you
can see how to wrap up your requirements in one of those
pretty bows.
Instead of saying you “can’t stand it” when a man shows up
late, say something like, “Everybody is so busy these days—
time sure is precious, isn’t it? I go out of my way to make sure
that if I say I’m going to be somewhere at 7:00 P.M., I’m going
to be there at 7:00 P.M., if not earlier, so that we can do what we
need to do in a timely manner, and if I’m going to be late, it
only takes a phone call to be courteous.”
Tran sl ation : You’ve just told him that you require the man in
your life to show up when he says he’s going to show up, and
have enough manners and class to call if he’s going to be late.
Now he knows to leave a few minutes earlier so he gets to you
on time, and to make sure his cell is charged in case he needs to
give you a head’s-up.