Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

go into that part of himself that he doesn’t like to go to, and
that’s the emotional part. Men do not do emotion well, at all,
and expressing it doesn’t come easy. He can answer questions
about God and the kids and his mother, but with this question,
you’re asking him to look into his soul, and our DNA isn’t
made up for the heartfelt outpouring to just anybody. But this
doesn’t mean you should let up. What you’re looking for in his
answer is something like this: “When I don’t see you, I miss
talking to you, I always wonder what you’re doing and when-
ever you come around, I just feel better—you’re the type of
woman I’ve been trying to find.” In other words, his answer has
to make you feel wonderful. He may not be in love with you
just yet, but he’s crazy about you and he’s probably thinking he
wants to explore a long-term commitment with you, because
when he starts to profess and put you in a position where he can
provide for and protect you, he’s seeing a future with you in it.
And this is exactly where you want to be with this guy.
The “I think you’re cool” answer isn’t going to cut it here,
ladies. And if, after you’ve asked the question and probed
deeper, you realize his feelings for you don’t run very deep—
that he’s just not there—then you need to not be there, too.
Pump the brakes until you start hearing and feeling from him
the things that you think are important to hear and feel from a
man with whom you’re willing to forge a relationship.