to try to get what they can get out of you. Even
though they’re not prepared to give you what you’re
looking for, which is most often a commitment.
They’ll validate their non-committed behavior by
saying, “But I’m still doing all these nice things. I’m
still treating you well. So why are you having an
issue with this?”
An official relationship brings you one of the
most important things you need as a woman,
security. Until a man gives you security, you’re
always going to feel unsettled. In non-official
relationship situations, it almost always becomes
toxic because, at some point, this is going to bother
you. Being unsure will make you feel restless. This
is going to rack your nerves and drive you insane.
The longer you stay in this type of situation, the
harder it is to pull yourself out it because you have
time invested that you will want to see a return on.
You’ll rationalize and analyze the situation to death
and come up with a million reasons why you should
stay in it.
However, now that you know what it is, if you’re
currently in any kind of non-relationship, even if
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