resistance  to, 94–95
rules   for giving,  96
about   sports,  224
about   staying in  room,   216–17
thinking    about,   75 ,    221
choices,    offering,    13 ,    27 ,    69 ,    242
honesty in,  113
chores,  30 ,    55 ,    84 ,   136–38
doing   others’,     209
fair    share   of,  167
giving  up  on, 252–53
negotiating,     137
time    for doing,   138
who does,    175
church  attendance, 139–40
cleanup,     56 ,    137 ,  210–12
of  room,   214–15
clothes,     29 ,   177–78
command-oriented    parents,    69–70
commands.   See orders
commiseration,   108 ,   123
commitment,  30
common  sense,   22 ,    48 ,    147
communication.  See also    talk
nonverbal,   40 ,   200–202
with    teachers,    232
compassion,  72 ,    94
competence, 25–26,   40
trust   in,  37 ,    168
competition,     40 ,    224
complaining,    254–55
computers,  194–97, 248–53. See also    Internet
concern,     30 ,    103 ,   182 ,   187
                    
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