1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting

you and your former partner could interfere with the explanation. Getting Started Here’s one way to start: “Listen ...

and part you won’t like. Here’s what you won’t like: if the thing you do is bad enough to start wit ...

Now take them through the rest of the procedure, so they get a feel for being counted, hitting three, get ...

PART III Managing Testing and Manipulation CHAPTER 10 Recognizing the Six Types of Testing and Manipulation CHAPTER 11 Tales fro ...

10 RECOGNIZING THE SIX TYPES OF TESTING AND MANIPULATION How to Prepare for Kids Resisting 1-2-3 Magic WHEN YOU ARE IN the warm, ...

testing and manipulation. These are the efforts of the less-powerful child to get what he wants or to avoid di ...

The first goal of testing is for the child to get what he wants. Since he’s less powerful than you are, he must use emotional ma ...

Badgering: “Why? Why? Why? Why?” Badgering is the “Please, please, please, please!” or “Why, why, why? ...

general. When frustrated, older kids may also swear or complain angrily. Some children’s fits o ...

The message is clear: something bad is going to happen unless you give me what I want immediately. Give ...

Martyrdom: “I never get anything!” Martyr-like testing tactics are a perennial favorite of children. When using ma ...

make you feel good. You may run the risk of losing this good feeling if you subsequently frustrate the ...

And a child who asks if he can have a friend over if he cleans up his room may be proposing a stra ...

boy sneaked down to the basement and hid for two hours, not responding to anyone who called ...

no more hassles. Some people say, “Thank heaven—there’s a way of getting rid of testing and mani ...

testing? It’s obvious—you just give it to him. You give him the snack right before dinner, turn the TV ...

an hour how much you love her, how much Dad and the dog love her, and so on. You have just been ha ...

find a weak spot. You are sticking to your guns. Not only that, but you are remaining fairly calm ...

Which Testing Tactic Is the Most Common? Badgering, temper, threat, martyrdom, butter up, and physical tactics are all ...

their favorite testing strategies, these children deteriorate in two ways. Some will up the ...