attemptsfail.Tofulfillyourpartner,youneedtolearnhowtogivetheloveheorsheprimarilyneeds.
LEARNINGTOLISTENWITHOUTGETTINGANGRY.......................................................................
The number one way a man can succeed in fulfilling a woman's primary love needs is through
communication. As we have discussed before, communication is particularly important on Venus. By
learningtolistentoawoman'sfeelings,amancaneffectivelyshowerawomanwithcaring,understanding,
respect,devotion,validation,andreassurance.
Oneofthebiggestproblemsmenhavewithlisteningtowomenisthattheybecomefrustratedorangry
becausetheyforgetthatwomenarefromVenusandthattheyaresupposedtocommunicatedifferently.
Thechartbelowoutlinessomewaystorememberthesedifferencesandmakessomesuggestionsabout
whattodo.
HOWTOLISTENWITHOUTGETTINGANGRY
Whattoremember Whattodoandwhatnottodo
1 .Rememberangercomesfromnotunderstandingherpointofview,andthisisneverherfault.
1 .Takeresponsibilitytounder-stand.Don'tblameherforupset-tingyou.Startagaintryingtounderstand.
2 .Rememberthatfeelingsdon'talwaysmakesenserightaway,butthey'restillvalidandneedcontrol.Try
toimaginehowyouwouldfeelifyousawtheworldthroughhereyes.
2 .Breathedeeply,don'tsayany-thing!Relaxandletgooftryingtoempathy.
- Rememberthatangermay come from notknowingwhatto dotomakethings better. Even ifshe
doesn'timmediatelyfeelbetter,yourlisteningandunderstandingarehelping.
3 .Don'tblameherfornotfeelingbetterfromyoursolutions.Howcan shefeel better whensolutions are
notwhatsheneeds?Resisttheurgetooffersolutions.
4 .Rememberyoudon'thavetoagreetounderstandherpointofpointofviewmakesuresheisfinished
andthenrephraseherpointofviewbeforegivingyourown.
4 .Ifyouwishtoexpressadifferingviewortobeappreciatedasagoodlistener.Donotraiseyourvoice.
5 .Rememberyoudon'tfullyhavetounderstandherpointofviewtosucceedinbeingagoodlistener.
5 .Letherknowyoudon'tunder-standbutwantto.Takeresponsi-bilityfornotunderstanding;don'tjudge
herorimplyshecan'tbeunderstood.
6 .Rememberyouarenotresponsibleforhowshefeels.Shemaysoundasthoughsheisblamingyou,but
sheisreallywantingtobeunderstood.