Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

(Tina Meador) #1

Amonthlaterhegoesonyetanothertrip. Asheleaveswithhissword,theprincessremindshimtobe
carefulandtellshimtotakethenoose.Onhiswayhome,heseesyetanotherdragonattackingthecastle.
Thistimeherushesforwardwithhisswordbuthesitates,thinkingmaybeheshouldusethenoose.Inthat
momentofhesitation,thedragonbreathesfireandburnshisrightarm.Inconfusionhelooksupandsees
hisprincesswavingfromthecastlewindow.


"Usethepoison,"sheyells."Thenoosedoesn'twork."


She throwshim the poison, which hepoursintothe dragon'smouth, and the dragon dies. Everyone
rejoicesandcelebrates,buttheknightfeelsashamed.


Amonthlater,hegoesonanothertrip.Asheleaveswithhissword,theprincessremindshimtobecareful,
andtobringthenooseandthepoison.Heisannoyedbyhersuggestionsbutbringsthemjustincase.


Thistimeonhisjourneyhehearsanotherwomanindistress.Asherushestohercall,hisdepressionis
liftedandhefeelsconfidentandalive.Butashedrawshisswordtoslaythedragon,heagainhesitates.He
wonders,ShouldIusemysword,thenoose,orthepoison?Whatwouldtheprincesssay?


Foramomentheisconfused.Butthenheremembershowhehadfeltbeforeheknewtheprincess,back
inthedayswhenheonlycarriedasword.Withaburstofrenewedconfidencehethrowsoffthenooseand
poisonandchargesthedragonwithhistrustedsword.Heslaysthedragonandthetownspeoplerejoice.


Theknightinshiningarmorneverreturnedtohisprincess.Hestayedinthisnewvillageandlivedhappily
everafter.Heeventuallymarried,butonlyaftermakingsurehisnewpartnerknewnothingaboutnooses
andpoisons.


Remembering thatwithin every man isa knight in shining armorisa powerfulmetaphorto help you
rememberaman'sprimaryneeds.Althoughamanmayappreciatecaringandassistancesometimes,too
muchofitwilllessenhisconfidenceorturnhimoff.


NOWYOUMAYBEUNKNOWINGLYTURNINGOFFYOURPARTNER.................................................


Withoutanawarenessofwhatisimportantfortheoppositesex,menandwomendon'trealizehowmuch
theymaybehurtingtheirpartners.Wecanseethatbothmenandwomenunknowinglycommunicatein
waysthatarenotonlycounterproductivebutmayevenbeaturnoff.


Menandwomengettheirfeelingshurtmosteasilywhenthey donotgetthekindofprimarylovethey
need.Womengenerallydon'trealizethewaystheycommunicatethatareunsupportiveandhurtfultothe
maleego.Awomanmaytrytobesensitivetoaman'sfeelings,butbecausehisprimaryloveneedsare
differentfromhers,shedoesn'tinstinctivelyanticipatehisneeds.


Throughunderstandingaman'sprimary loveneeds, awoman can bemoreawareandsensitivetothe

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