tell, by giving him an opportunity to get to know her.
A woman becomes more special to a man when he finds that
not only is he physically attracted to her, but he also likes her.
There are many women to whom he can be physically attracted,
but only a smaller group with whom he can also be friends. A
woman becomes even more special to him when he also finds
that he is mentally attracted to who she is as a person. There
are only a few women for whom he can feel all three levels of
chemistry.
She becomes still more special when he is able to see her as
an imperfect person but also lovable. Even at difficult times in
their relationship, when he is not getting what he needs from
her, he is able to still see the good in her and feel his love for
her. This kind of unconditional love makes her very special.
Then, within this very small and special group, his soul picks
one to share his life. It is then that a woman is most special to
a man.
WHAT MAKES A MAN SPECIAL
A man becomes more special to a woman in a reverse manner.
She is first mentally attracted to him. She looks at some aspect
of who he is and what he is doing with his life and feels some
chemistry. This is the largest group of men from which she
picks. Then she finds that some men are more special. She be-
gins to feel emotional chemistry; she begins to feel affection
for a man and like him as a friend as well.
While there may be many men with whom she feels mental
chemistry, there are fewer men who cause her to feel emotional
chemistry. At this point, she may discover that she also feels
a physical attraction. It might happen slowly or it might happen
very suddenly. Quite often, it happens when he gives her a
kiss. That one little gesture of affection can suddenly
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