ing the part of her that needs a man’s affections, she will de-
crease her own ability to feel attractive and attracted.
Just because a woman enjoys a man’s gifts does not in any
way obligate her to give more than a smile or a thank you.
Women commonly confuse a man’s hope that he will “get
lucky” with the expectation that she should be physically in-
timate with him.
Just because a woman enjoys a man’s gifts
does not in any way obligate her to give more
than a smile or a thank you.Most men do not expect a woman to be physically intimate;
they just hope to get lucky. They don’t think, Well, I paid for
dinner, so she should have sex with me. Still, sometimes a
woman will refuse to let a man pay for dinner because she
doesn’t want him to get the wrong idea. This is insulting not
only to him but to herself as well. If she feels that a man is
trying to buy her sexual favors, then why go out with him at
all?
THE DESIRE FOR INTIMACY IS INNOCENT
It is innocent for a man to want to be intimate physically and
it is just as innocent for a woman to feel swept off her feet by
a man’s strong interest and passion. While most men only hope
to get lucky, there are some who expect it. They have had sex
with women who are just looking for a good time, and so they
expect this from all women.
They expect it because they see it on TV, in the movies, and
in magazines, and they assume that all women are just as fast
as men. Without an understanding of what it takes to make a
relationship work, it appears that fast sex is a heav-
58 / JOHN GRAY, PH.D.