Orgasm(j) Use artificial lubricants, e.g., KY jelly, vaseline and creams to increase lubrication
and make penetration easier.
(k) Continue to stimulate each other during the act by holding tightly, caressing and
kissing.
(l) Talk to each other and express your feelings during the act.
(m) Let your partner feel that he/she has done something wonderful to you.Sexual Excitement in Men
Pre-orgasmic Phase
(a) Sexual excitement in a man can be achieved by sight and touch.
(b) The initial sign of sexual excitement is the erection of the penis.
(c) With further excitement, a clear secretion emerges from the tip of the penis.
(d) Once the penis is erect and the arousal stimulus continues, the man seeks to have
sexual intercourse.
(e) During the sex act itself, he thrusts in and out of his wife’s vagina, the excitement
increases progressively and orgasm approaches.Orgasmic Phase
(a) There is a quickening of the heartbeat.
(b) There is a jerking and vibration of the penis as the man ejaculates and a stiffening
of the body.
(c) There is an audible sigh and the penis begins to become flaccid (limp) after
orgasm.
(d) When orgasm occurs, the man holds/clasps his wife tightly to his body.
(e) It takes a little while for the penis to become erect again. This time varies from
about five minutes to a few hours, depending on the youthfulness and excitement
levels of the man.^2Things that Increase Sexual Excitement in a Man
(a) Seeing that the woman is enjoying sex and that he is giving her pleasure.
(b) Anything, e.g. position, attire, place, etc., that is out of the ordinary or unusual.
(c) Tightening the wall of the vagina while the penis is in it by an action similar to
attempting to stop the flow of urine. (Pelvic floor exercises).
Laxity of the vagina walls and over-lubrication of the vagina may reduce excitement.