- They've just finished eating dinner, and they're talking. She looks at
him and says, "This is going to be complicated", implying that she's
falling for him. What would most guys do if they were getting a green
light like this one? They'd probably make a pass at her and kiss her.
Not Tom. He looks at her, then gets up and says, "I'm going to take a
shower." At first, it would seem that he was going to walk into HER
shower and take it, but no... he walks out, gets on his motorcycle and
rides off.- In the elevator scene... Tom stops the elevator and leans in close to
her. You can see that she's feeling shy and anxious... but does he kiss
her? No. He leans back after that moment, makes a cute remark and
leaves. What's going on here? The first time I saw these scenes many
years ago, I just thought that he was too shy to make a move.
Now I understand what's going on here. He is VERY DELIBERATELY
creating TENSION and ANTICIPATION inside of her. He is, in effect, saying to
her, "I know that I could make a move right now, but I CHOOSE not to. I'm
going to keep you guessing... make no mistake about it, I'M IN CONTROL OF
MYSELF here." By the way, when you watch these scenes, watch his body
language and facial expressions. Notice that he doesn't smile too much, and
he plays the part perfectly. Watch and learn.
So how can you use this if you don't happen to be one of the top movie
stars of all time and have a $40 million aircraft to enhance your image?
Simple. Just notice when she likes something that you're doing, and then stop.
Lean back. Tease a little bit.
If you've started holding her hand and you can tell that she likes it, STOP.
Take your hand away for a few minutes, then talk about something else. Just
when she doesn't know if you're going to do it again, take her hand again.
If you've started kissing, STOP. Lean back. Look at her with a "I know you
want to kiss me" look and give her a slight, sly smile. If you learn how to take
two steps forward and one step back, it will ACCELERATE your success with
women.