Healing After Loss

MAY 10 Each substance of a grief hath twenty shadows. —WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE They are everywhere—the reminders of our loss. They r ...

MAY 11 Out of every crisis comes the chance to be reborn, to recon- ceive ourselves as individuals, to choose the kind of change ...

MAY 12 Her love is everywhere. It follows me as I go about the house, meets me in the garden, sends swans into my dreams. In a s ...

MAY 13 Go in all simplicity; do not be anxious to win a quiet mind, and it will be all the quieter. Do not examine so closely in ...

MAY 14 The chessboard is the world; the pieces are the phenomena of the universe; the rules of the game are what we call the Law ...

MAY 15 This we owe our beloved dead, whether young or old: to wipe from our memories all that was less than their best, and to c ...

MAY 16 ...even dead her familiar face made him safe...as if she actu- ally told him, “I died, that’s all.” Tears came, and that ...

MAY 17 I will miss seeing her face and hearing her voice and knowing she was always there close to me. She has crossed a river f ...

MAY 18 The world is not divided into the strong who care and the weak who are cared for. We must each in turn care and be cared ...

MAY 19 She thought of the women at Chicken Little’s funeral...What she had regarded since as unbecoming behavior seemed fit- tin ...

MAY 20 So often, we believe that we have come to a place that is void of hope and void of possibilities, only to find that it is ...

MAY 21 Let it not be death but completeness. Let love melt into memory and pain into songs. Let the flight through the sky end i ...

MAY 22 Tonight all the hells of young grief have opened up again; the mad words, the bitter resentment, the fluttering in the st ...

MAY 23 All goes onward and outward, nothing collapses, And to die is different from what any one supposes, and luckier. —WALT WH ...

MAY 24 The moment comes when our eyes are opened, and we see and realize that grace is infinite. Grace, my friends, demands noth ...

MAY 25 There is no question of getting beyond it. The little boat enters the dark fearful gulf and our only cry is to es- cape—“ ...

MAY 26 The refusal to love is the only unbearable thing. —MADELEINE L’ENGLE Sometimes it seems that this grief we are experienci ...

MAY 27 I wouldn’t mind dying young...I’ve had a full life already. —MARY HICKMAN We who have lost loved ones through sudden acci ...

MAY 28 O God, you have let me pass the day in peace; let me pass the night in peace, O Lord who has no lord. There is no strengt ...

MAY 29 Did someone say that there would be an end, An end, Oh, an end, to love and mourning? —MAY SARTON No, not to either. And ...