Healing After Loss

JULY 9 Real grief is not healed by time...If time does anything, it deepens our grief. The longer we live, the more fully we be- ...

JULY 10 I am slowly, painfully discovering that my refuge is not found in my mother, my grandmother, or even the birds of Bear R ...

JULY 11 Hikers refer to them as “middle-miles.” These are the most exhausting, challenging miles on the path, when the exhilar- ...

JULY 12 Grief teaches the steadiest minds to waver. —SOPHOCLES Don’t we know it! Sometimes we can’t seem to decide the simplest ...

JULY 13 He’d begun to wake up in the morning with something be- sides dread in his heart. Not happiness exactly, not eagerness f ...

JULY 14 We are healed of a suffering only by experiencing it to the full. —MARCEL PROUST There is no skirting around the sufferi ...

JULY 15 When I lay [my] questions before God I get no answer. But a rather special sort of No answer. It is not the locked door. ...

JULY 16 If we can choose where to cry, at home or with a few people who will be fully understanding, perhaps we will feel easier ...

JULY 17 Even when the dead have ebbed in memory from our waking hours, they may return to us in dreams. These reunions, often st ...

JULY 18 I was wholly at peace, at ease and at rest, so that there was nothing upon earth which could have afflicted me. This las ...

JULY 19 Over the nowhere arches the everywhere. —MARIA RAINER RILKE I remember on a very cold day retracing my steps in what cou ...

JULY 20 It is as if the intensity of grief fused the distance between you and the dead. Or perhaps, in reality, part of one dies ...

JULY 21 ...All those who try to go it sole alone, Too proud to be beholden for relief, Are absolutely sure to come to grief. —RO ...

JULY 22 To live in the religious spirit is not easy; the believer is con- tinually on a deep sea 70,000 fathoms deep...It is a g ...

JULY 23 People in mourning have to come to grips with death before they can live again. Mourning can go on for years and years. ...

JULY 24 My heart is in anguish within me... And I say, “O, that I had wings like a dove! I would fly away and be at rest.” —PSAL ...

JULY 25 I had to struggle alone, and all I knew was that Father’s death caused me to ask questions for which I could find no ans ...

JULY 26 Illness is the night-side of life, a more onerous citizenship. Everyone who is born holds dual citizenship, in the kingd ...

JULY 27 Hell, Madame, is to love no longer. —GEORGES BERNANOS Of course we miss the expressions of love from the one we have los ...

JULY 28 God, bless to me the new day, Never vouchsafed to me before; It is to bless Thine own presence Thou hast given me this t ...