“Hi” is good for almost any situation. It works best in low key atmospheres like dinner
parties. But “Hi” is best used after eye contact with your target is established. Saying
“Hi” before you’ve gotten eye contact has a good possibility of putting your target on
guard.
By the same token, “Hi” is not a powerful Intruder. You can’t call it out forcefully when
you see someone walking ahead of you on the sidewalk that you want to meet. It comes
off as socially awkward. “Hi” is also rather impersonal and even a bit formal.
Sometimes you can use the proper form of “Hi,” that being “Hello,” if the situation calls
for it and you deliver it right.
The Intruder “Hey,” is much more versatile.
“Hey” can be used in pretty much any situation you may find yourself in, and it does not
require eye contact to Intrude on your target’s personal bubble. The reason for this is that
the word “Hi” imposes you on your target, whereas the word “Hey” engages your target
and prompts them to interact with you.
“Hey” can be used in a low key way, such as “Hey there,” or it can be used forcefully as
a powerful Intruder, such as “HEY!” Also, “Hey” can be used interchangeably with
“Hi,” and is much less of a formal greeting.
“Yo” is the opposite of the formal “Hi” and the neutral “Hey.” It is completely informal,
and very much a familiar way of greeting people.
“Yo” is an Intruder that can be used forcefully to enter a personal bubble as well. “Yo” is
also good when approaching a group. However, “Yo” is a very selfish intruder because it
indicates that you may want something from your target (which you do, but this Intruder
may telegraph that).
The final Intruder, “Stop,” is probably the most powerful of the four I have listed for you.
“Stop” is a very forceful intruder, and instantly establishes a sort of authority for yourself.
But it is quite context dependent. In other words, it is most effective when your target is
engaging in some type of activity, such as walking, jogging, playing a game or sport,
leaving a venue, etc. But you must be forceful with this Intruder, otherwise it won’t work.
You may notice that I have left out the phrase “Excuse me,” from the list of common
Intruders.
This is because “Excuse me” is not an Intruder.
The phrase “Excuse me,” rather than injecting yourself into your target’s personal bubble,
instead asks permission from your target to be included in their personal bubble. This
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