“You said it’s possible because poker is a game, and to win a game, you need to develop
certain skills. Ever hear of ‘the dating game?’ or ‘the game of love?’” I asked.
Kevin nodded.
“Most people don’t realize that dating, relationships, even sex require certain knowledge
and skills to do well in. They’re no different than poker. But for some reason, people
aren’t made to feel guilty or ashamed for learning how to play poker, but they are for
learning about anything having to do with sex.”
“So you think I’m still a virgin because I never bothered to learn dating skills?” asked
Kevin.
“Yes,” I replied. “Let me ask you another question. Why is it you think you never
bothered to learn dating skills?”
“Well, I’ve been out on lots of dates,” said Kevin. “I’ve even had a few girlfriends. I’ve
just never had sex.”
“Sex is part of dating. Its part of relationships. Until you’ve had sex with a girl you’re
dating, you can’t really consider her a true girlfriend. She’s just a friend. Why is it that
you’ve had opportunities to have sex before, but haven’t taken them?”
“Because I’m waiting for someone special,” said Kevin.
“Ah, now we’re getting somewhere,” I grinned.
“But I don’t just want to have sex with anyone,” argued Kevin. “I want it to be with
someone I love.”
“Then why are you complaining about being a virgin at 35?” I asked. “Why aren’t you
complaining about never having been in love at 35?”
Kevin shut up at that. He blinked at me a few times as his brain tried to process what I
just said.
“I – I – I ...” he stuttered.
“I’ll tell you why,” I said. “Because deep down in your subconscious, past all the
bullcrap you’ve built up over the years through religion, TV, movies, and bad advice
from parents and friends – you know that your urge to have sex is very different from
your urge to find love.”
“What do you mean?” asked Kevin.
© Copyright Bizlancer Inc. It is forbidden to copy this report in any manner. Web: http://www.artofapproaching.com