Relationship
If kundalini is the energy of individuation, then how does kundalini apply in
relationship? During a kundalini awakening as more layers of our being are accessed
we are both more vulnerable, complex and sensitive. The energy of kundalini is
highly attractive and addictive and so we have to be careful not to draw unhealthy
relationships, like wasps around a honey pot. It’s the kundalini energy itself that
is “attractive,” but it’s not always attractive. Kundalini energy is attractive to the
degree that bodies and hearts are “open,” and it pushes uncomfortably against
that which is not open. Those who are nervous, borderline, hypersensitive or
unbalanced would most often be made uncomfortable by contact with someone
with active kundalini. An aggressive person might be stimulated to be aggressive
within the heightened field of a kundi-active, due to the their resistance to the
“pressure” on their heart to open. Perhaps as a general rule kundalini energy will
tend to stimulate the default emotional precondition of individuals exposed to it.
And during the Die-off, gravity crushing and panic phases kundalini is definitely
not attractive to oneself or others.
During a kundalini awakening we are at a lifetime peak in pituitary potency, so
our center of being rises to the psychic level, and we have access to a vastly higher
vision and taste of reality. While at that level we cannot fit our larger being down
into the consensus flatland “reality,” so during an awakening we are more alone
than we will ever be in our lives, for no one can intimately tread the same territory
along side us. Beware of selling-out your values and truth for the comfort and
security of having someone around. Also during active kundalini, sex along with
all sense-perception and sensation, is greatly amplified and this can interfere with
discretion and decision-making in relationships. With kundalini flow we are already
greatly in love, bliss and openness and likely to overlook warning signals, traits
and behaviors which normally we wouldn’t tolerate in a partner. So it is a strange
condition of being in total readiness for relationship, and yet the stakes of setting
a foot wrong have never been so high. We will fall into whatever traps we have
prepared for ourselves by our nature. If you find yourself involved in relationship
difficulty, pull back and focus on your own creative output and integrating the
kundalini through exercise, energy work (Qi Gong etc...) and nature. The potency
of kundalini greatly exaggerates relationship such that situations can become a
comedic parody of relating. The exaggeration means one cannot hide from the
potential for love, or one’s need to betray that potential. All that is within oneself
becomes exposed at much greater speed and intensity. The “derepression capacity”
of kundalini is so great that the whole relationship has to be dedicated to the All or
both parties are screwed no matter what they do.
It is important to always seek a peer relationship and even more so during
awakening. Never fall into the trap of thinking you are doing someone a favor and
helping them to grow, heal or overcome neurosis by having sex with them during
active kundalini. Seek someone of equal or higher openness and intelligence, for
anything else will be degrading, wasteful and produce suffering. The neurotic that
you desire to “help” will not be able to grow at the same pace, nor commit to