stick around to see where your relationship goes, or if you
should run really fast in the opposite direction. Note: There’s
no need to delay asking these questions—ask them right away,
as soon as you think you might be remotely attracted to a man
you’ve met. If he’s turned off by the questions, so what: you have
the right to the information. And if he isn’t willing to answer
them, well you know from the gate he’s not the one for you.
So let’s just get started with the questions. Remember: No.
Fear.
If you’re going to get into a relationship with a man, you
should know what his plans are and how they fit into the key
elements that make a man—who he is, what he does, and how
much he makes. These three things, as I’ve already told you, are
extremely important to any mature, grown man, and you have
every right to know what he’s doing right now, and what he’s
planning over the next three to five years, to be the real, grown
man he wants to be. His answer also will help you determine
whether you want to be a part of that plan or not. You’ll know
to throw up your much-needed red flag if he doesn’t have a
plan at all.