“Robert, you claim you love me, but you don’t
show it. Sure, words are nice to hear and I’m
thankful that you feel comfortable sharing your
feelings for me. However, I also need you to act like
you love me. Why don’t you ever show me by doing
things for me that speak louder than words?”
Robert claimed, “I just have a hard time showing
love. The family I grew up with wasn’t very
affectionate. They didn’t show love to each other.
Love wasn’t ever expressed outside of words. It was
kind of a given. When it was said that was enough.
It’s uncomfortable for me to be affectionate and
show my love with actions.”
Michelle was immediately sympathetic and felt
sorry for him. She felt like, “Okay, I just need to be
understanding and patient with him. At least he’s
telling me he loves me. He must clearly love me. I’m
going to stick it out, hoping he will begin trying to
find ways to show me his love as well.”
To that I said, “Hell no.” Hell no to keeping it
going. Hell, no to believing you need to hold on to
this situation because he’s saying the right things.
Even if he’s telling you he loves you, if he’s not
backing it up with action that’s a problem.
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