Love,Samantha
P.S.IneedtohearthatyouwillberesponsibletotakeHayleynextweektothedentist.
ALoveLetterAboutIndifference
Jimwasleavingthenextmorningforabusinesstrip.Thatevening,hiswife,Virginia,attemptedtocreate
someintimacy. Shebrought amango intotheir bedroom and offered him some. Jim waspreoccupied
readingabookinbedandbrieflycommentedthathewasn'thungry.Virginiafeltrejectedandleft.Inside
shewashurtandangry.Insteadofcomingbackandcomplainingabouthisrudenessandinsensitivity,she
wroteaLoveLetter.
Afterwritingthisletter,Virginia,feelingmoreacceptingandfor-
giving,wentback intothebedroomandsaid,"Thisisourlastnightbeforeyouleave,let'sspendsome
specialtimetogether."Jimputdownhisbookandtheyhadadelightful,intimateevening.WritingaLove
LettergaveVirginiathestrengthandlovetopersistmoredirectlyingettingherpartner'sattention.Shedid
notevenneedtoshareherLoveLetterwithherpartner.
Thisisherletter:
DearJim,
1 .Anger:Iamfrustratedthatyouwanttoreadabookandthisisourlasteveningtogetherbeforeyou
leave.Iamangrythatyouignoreme.Iamangrythatyoudonotwanttospendthistimewithme.Iam
angrythatwedon'tspendmoretimetogether.Thereisalwayssomethingmoreimportantthanme.Iwant
tofeelyouloveme.
2 .Sad: Iam sad thatyou don'twanttobewithme.I amsad thatyouworksohard. Ifeellikeyou
wouldn'tevennoticeifIwasn'there.Iamsadthatyouarealwayssobusy.Iamsadthatyoudon'twant
totalkwithme.Ifeelhurtthatyoudonotcare.Idon'tfeelspecial.
3 .Fear:Iamafraidyou don'tevenknowwhyIam upset. Iamafraidyoudon'tcare.Iamafraidof
sharingmyfeelingswithyou.Iamafraidyouwillrejectme.Iamafraidwearedriftingfurtherapart.Iam
scaredthatIcan'tdoanythingaboutit.IamafraidthatIamboringtoyou.Iamafraidthatyoudon'tlike
me.
- Regret: I feelso embarrassed wanting to spend time with you when you don't even care. I feel
embarrassedgettingsoupset.Iamsorryifthissoundsdemanding.IamsorrythatIamnotmoreloving
andaccepting.IamsorrythatIwascoldwhenyoudidn'twanttospendtimewithme.IamsorrythatI
didn'tgiveyouanotherchance.Iam.sorrythatIstoptrustingyourlove.
9 .Love:Idoloveyou.That'swhyIbroughtthemango.Iwantedtodosomethingtopleaseyou.Iwanted