Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

(Tina Meador) #1

Love,Samantha


P.S.IneedtohearthatyouwillberesponsibletotakeHayleynextweektothedentist.


ALoveLetterAboutIndifference


Jimwasleavingthenextmorningforabusinesstrip.Thatevening,hiswife,Virginia,attemptedtocreate
someintimacy. Shebrought amango intotheir bedroom and offered him some. Jim waspreoccupied
readingabookinbedandbrieflycommentedthathewasn'thungry.Virginiafeltrejectedandleft.Inside
shewashurtandangry.Insteadofcomingbackandcomplainingabouthisrudenessandinsensitivity,she
wroteaLoveLetter.


Afterwritingthisletter,Virginia,feelingmoreacceptingandfor-


giving,wentback intothebedroomandsaid,"Thisisourlastnightbeforeyouleave,let'sspendsome
specialtimetogether."Jimputdownhisbookandtheyhadadelightful,intimateevening.WritingaLove
LettergaveVirginiathestrengthandlovetopersistmoredirectlyingettingherpartner'sattention.Shedid
notevenneedtoshareherLoveLetterwithherpartner.


Thisisherletter:


DearJim,


1 .Anger:Iamfrustratedthatyouwanttoreadabookandthisisourlasteveningtogetherbeforeyou
leave.Iamangrythatyouignoreme.Iamangrythatyoudonotwanttospendthistimewithme.Iam
angrythatwedon'tspendmoretimetogether.Thereisalwayssomethingmoreimportantthanme.Iwant
tofeelyouloveme.


2 .Sad: Iam sad thatyou don'twanttobewithme.I amsad thatyouworksohard. Ifeellikeyou
wouldn'tevennoticeifIwasn'there.Iamsadthatyouarealwayssobusy.Iamsadthatyoudon'twant
totalkwithme.Ifeelhurtthatyoudonotcare.Idon'tfeelspecial.


3 .Fear:Iamafraidyou don'tevenknowwhyIam upset. Iamafraidyoudon'tcare.Iamafraidof
sharingmyfeelingswithyou.Iamafraidyouwillrejectme.Iamafraidwearedriftingfurtherapart.Iam
scaredthatIcan'tdoanythingaboutit.IamafraidthatIamboringtoyou.Iamafraidthatyoudon'tlike
me.



  1. Regret: I feelso embarrassed wanting to spend time with you when you don't even care. I feel
    embarrassedgettingsoupset.Iamsorryifthissoundsdemanding.IamsorrythatIamnotmoreloving
    andaccepting.IamsorrythatIwascoldwhenyoudidn'twanttospendtimewithme.IamsorrythatI
    didn'tgiveyouanotherchance.Iam.sorrythatIstoptrustingyourlove.


9 .Love:Idoloveyou.That'swhyIbroughtthemango.Iwantedtodosomethingtopleaseyou.Iwanted

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