tospendsomespecialtimetogether. Istillwanttohaveaspecialevening.I forgiveyou forbeingso
indifferenttome.Iforgiveyoufornotrespondingrightaway.Iunderstandthatyouwereinthemiddleof
readingsomething.Let'shavealovingintimateevening.
Iloveyou,Virginia
P.S.TheresponseIwouldliketohear:Iloveyou,Virginia,andIalsowanttospendalovingeveningwith
you.Iamgoingtomissyou."
ALoveLetterAboutArguing
MichaelandVanessadisagreedaboutafinancialdecision.Withinafewminutestheygotintoanargument.
WhenMichaelnoticedthathewasstartingtoyellhestoppedyelling,tookadeepbreath,andthensaid,"I
needsometimetothinkaboutthisandthenwewilltalk."Thenhewentintoanotherroomandwroteout
hisfeelingsinaLoveLetter.
Afterwritingtheletterhewasabletogobackanddiscussthematterinamoreunderstandingway.Asa
resulttheywereablelovinglytoresolvetheirproblem.
ThisishisLoveLetter:
DearVanessa,
1 .Anger:Iamangrythatyougetsoemotional.Iam angrythatyoukeepmisunderstandingme.Iam
angrythatyoucan'tstaycalmwhenwetalk.Iamangrythatyouaresosensitiveandeasilyhurt.Iam
angrythatyoumistrustandrejectme.
2 .Sadness:Iamsadthatwearearguing.Ithurtstofeelyourdoubtsandmistrust.Ithurtstoloseyour
love.Iamsadthatwefought.Iamsadthatwedisagree.
3 .Fear:Iamafraidofmakingamistake.IamafraidIcan'tdowhatIwanttodowithoutupsettingyou.I
amafraidtosharemyfeelings.Iamafraidyouwillmakemewrong.Iamafraidoflookingincompetent.I
amafraidyoudonotappreciateme.Iamafraidtotalkwithyouwhenyouaresoupset.Idon'tknowwhat
tosay.
4 .Regret:IamsorryIhurtyou.IamsorryIdon'tagreewithyou.IamsorrythatIbecamesocold.Iam
sorrythatIamsoresistanttoyourideas.IamsorrythatIaminsuchahurrytodowhatIwant.Iam
sorrythatImakeyourfeelingswrong.Youdonotdeservetobetreatedthatway.IamsorrythatIjudged
you.
5 .Love:IloveyouandIwanttoworkthisout.IthinkIcouldlistento yourfeelingsnow.I wantto
supportyou.IunderstandIhurtyourfeelings.IamsorryIwassoinvalidatingofyourfeelings.Ireally
loveyousomuch.IwanttobeyourheroandIdon'twanttojustagreewitheverything.Iwantyouto