Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

(Tina Meador) #1

admireme.IneedtobemeandIsupportyouinbeingyou.Iloveyou.ThistimewhenwetalkIwillbe
morepatientandunderstanding.Youdeservethat.


Iloveyou,Michael


PS. The response I would like to hear: I love you, Michael. I really appreciate what a caring and
understandingmanyouare.Itrustwecanworkthisout."


ALoveLetterAboutFrustrationandDisappointment


Jeanleftamessageforherhusband,Bill,sayingthatshewantedhimtobringsomeimportantmailhome.
Somehow,Billnevergotthemessage.Whenhearrivedhomewithoutthemail,Jean'sreactionwasstrong
frustrationanddisappointment.


AlthoughBillwasnotatfault,whenJeancontinuedmakingcommentsabouthowmuchsheneededthat
mallandhowfrustratedshewas,hestartedtofeelblamedandattacked.JeandidnotrealizethatBillwas
takingpersonallyallherfeelingsoffrustrationanddisappointment.Billwasabouttoexplodeandmakeher
wrongforbeingsoupset.


Insteadofdumpinghisdefensivefeelingsonherandruiningtheirevening,hewiselydecidedtotaketen
minutesandwriteaLoveLetter.Whenhefinishedwriting,hecamebackmorelovingandgavehiswifea
hug,saying,"Iamsorryyoudidn'tgetyourmail.IwishIhadgottenthatmessage.Doyoustillloveme
anyway?"Jeanrespondedwithalotofloveandappreciation,andtheyhadawonderfuleveninginsteadof
acoldwar.


ThisisBill'sLoveLetter:


DearJean,


1 .Anger:Ihatewhenyou.getsoupset.Ihatewhenyoublameme.Iamangrythatyouaresounhappy.
Iamangrythatyouarenothappytoseeme.ItfeelslikenothingIdoiseverenough.Iwantyouto
appreciatemeandbehappytoseeme.


2 .Sad:Iamsadthatyouaresofrustratedanddisappointed.Iamsadthatyouarenothappywithme.I
wantyoutobehappy.Iamsadthatworkisalwaysgettinginthewayofourlovelife.Iamsadthatyou
don'tappreciateallthewonderfulthingswehaveinourlives.IamsadIdidn'tcomehomewiththemall
youneeded.


3 .Fear:IamafraidIcan'tmakeyouhappy.Iamafraidyouwillbeunhappyallevening.Iamafraidtobe
openwithyouorbeclosetoyou.Iamafraidofneedingyourlove.IamafraidIamnotgoodenough.I
amafraidyouwillholdthisagainstme.


4 .Regret:IamsorrythatIdidn'tbringhomethemall.Iamsorryyouaresounhappy.IamsorrythatI

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