to be with a woman. In some cases he will realize how special
she is to him only when she backs off and stops pursuing him.
Quite often a man will pull back and then—once the woman
has let go—he springs back with greater desire and love.
A man will pull back, and once the
woman has let go he springs back
with greater desire and love.This reaction is very confusing to a woman. When he comes
back, she feels it is too late. She is unable to bend back to him
because it is hard to believe that his sudden rush of love is real.
She feels hurt and is afraid of getting hurt again; she thinks
that if she goes back he will just lose his newfound interest.
Without understanding how she contributed to the problem,
she cannot trust that his love will be lasting.
Understanding of the five stages gives her the insight neces-
sary to overcome her fear of intimacy and open her heart to
trust his love. Once she clearly understands how she contrib-
uted to the problem, she can make sure it doesn’t happen again.
Instead of feeling like a victim at the whim of her partner’s
changing feelings, she feels assured that she has the power to
get what she needs. She can trust her partner’s love when she
feels the power to create the right conditions for their love to
grow.
Instead of feeling like a victim at the
whim of her partner’s changing feelings,
a woman can feel self-assured.WHEN THE CLOCK KEEPS TICKING AND HE’S NOT WEARING A