Emotional chemistry has a lot to do with a person’s person-
ality. Personality is how you relate to the world and others.
Quite often, opposite personalities are attracted to each other.
Some men like a woman with a bubbly or perky personality,
while others like a more stable or relaxed personality. The
possibilities are really endless. We can be attracted to someone
like ourselves, but generally we are most attracted to people
who are not like ourselves.
For example, a very stable personality with somewhat fixed
routines may be attracted to a person who likes change and
excitement. A very bold, outwardly directed personality may
be attracted to a shy, inwardly directed person. A very assertive
personality may be attracted to a more supportive or accom-
modating personality. An easygoing personality may be attrac-
ted to a more formal personality. A playful personality may
be attracted to a more serious personality. No one personality
is intrinsically more attractive than another, but as we become
more discerning we find that we are automatically attracted
to the people we like more and could be friends with.
LEVEL THREE FOR MEN: MENTAL ATTRACTION
By exercising his discernment and choosing only to date wo-
men he is attracted to physically and emotionally, a man begins
to develop mental attraction. He is intrigued by a woman and
wants to touch who she is and not just her body. He is not just
attracted to her physically, nor does he just enjoy being friends
with her. In level three, he is attracted to her character as well.
He is fascinated by the way she thinks, the way she feels, and
the way she conducts her life.
At level three, his attraction to some aspect of her character
brings out in turn the best of his character. It could be any
166 / JOHN GRAY, PH.D.