attracted to men in their minds. A woman imagines what a
man is like and is attracted to something in his character. It
could be the smallest gesture of saying “Excuse me,” or the
way he knowingly smiles, or shyly asks her for a date. It could
be the way he sings a song, writes a letter, communicates his
ideas, walks his dog, holds a child, expresses consideration for
others, or stands up for what he believes. It could be the kind
of questions he asks, the success he has achieved, or the values
he lives his life by. All of these are simply ways a man ex-
presses his character. One or two of these expressions stimulate
who she is.
At the lowest level of discernment for a woman, she is attrac-
ted to men by mental chemistry. There are a lot of interesting
men, but to begin increasing her ability to discern the right
man for her, she needs to date only those men she finds most
interesting. Just as men with a low level of discernment long
to be with women they see in magazines, women at their
lowest level of discernment long to be with the men in romance
novels. Just as for men, a woman’s low level of discernment
is innocent and a necessary foundation to grow upon.
LEVEL TWO FOR WOMEN: EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION
After some initial dating experiences with men, a woman starts
to find that she likes some better than others. With this exper-
ience, she can now be more discerning in the men she chooses
to date. At level one, she might go out with a guy because she
didn’t know if she liked his type, but he was interesting to her
and interested in her. Now she has higher standards. When
she senses that she doesn’t like a man a lot, she decides not to
date him. Eventually, as her discernment increases, she auto-
matically feels attracted to men she likes,
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