grow in discernment. Once you have already developed your
discernment, you lose something if you look back. For some
time your ability to recognize the right person and your mag-
netic ability to be attractive to the right person will be dimin-
ished.
SUCCESS STORIES
After learning this, Roger experienced an enormous shift in
his life. He had been dating for fun any woman he was attrac-
ted to. He knew that the women he was dating did not have
the potential to be what he was looking for, but he continued
anyway. With this new awareness he raised his standards.
After a few months he began dating a woman who he thought
had the potential. After another six months he proposed. Now
he and his wife have been married several years and are very
happy with two children.
Kent has a similar story, but he experienced an even more
sudden transformation. After many counseling sessions, I was
finally able to convince him that he was wasting his time and
his life pursuing women just for sex. He would take out prac-
tically any woman, and pursue her until he achieved his goal.
Kent was and is a fine person. He just didn’t understand how
he was compromising himself in this process. The very next
day after he decided to stop flirting with and chasing just any
woman, he met and fell in love with the woman of his dreams.
They are now engaged to be married.
After taking my seminar for singles, Alexis decided to stop
having relationships with men who were just physically attrac-
ted to her. Instead she became much more picky. She realized
that her pattern was to immediately move into stage four of
dating (intimacy) when a man was physically attracted. She
would mistakenly assume that he felt all four
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