By understanding the way women think and feel, a man has
a huge advantage over most men out there dating. Most men
will ruin a date by trying to talk a woman out of being upset
or disappointed. They don’t realize the power of listening to
win a woman over. They don’t realize the importance of little
things and not necessarily big things to impress her most. The
more a man learns about women, the more confident he will
feel on a date. This confidence makes him very attractive.
Dates become disasters not because of what happens but
because of how the man handles a woman’s feelings in reaction
to disappointments. A man can get too attached to his plan
and forget that the real gift he gives a woman is his sincere
interest in making her happy. When circumstances don’t do
it, then he can really score big by being caring, understanding,
and respectful of her reaction to what has happened.
THE SECOND ATTRIBUTE: PURPOSEFULNESS
A man with a purpose is most attractive to a woman. When
he has a plan, a dream, a direction, a vision, an interest, or a
concern, he is very attractive. It doesn’t matter how great or
grand the plan or purpose is. He is attractive to the degree that
he feels passionate about achieving his purpose. He then be-
comes even more attractive when he focuses his purposefulness
on her. When he becomes focused on making her happy, then
she is swept off her feet.
This does not mean that he gives up his other goals and
wants only to make her happy. That is a turnoff. A woman
knows that she cannot fulfill all his needs. She doesn’t want
him to stop his life for her. That would put too much pressure
on her and their relationship.
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