Body Language

Putting your handbag in close proximity

A woman’s handbag is her personal domain. Even most married men live in

terror of entering this most forbidden territory. Because a woman treats her

handbag as if it were a personal extension of her body, it becomes a strong

signal of sexual intimacy when she places her bag close to a man.

If a woman finds a man attractive she may deliberately stroke and caress her

bag in an inviting manner, tantalising and teasing her male admirer.

A woman who places her handbag close enough to a man for him to see or

touch it is sending out signals that she’s attracted to him. If she keeps her

bag away from him, she’s creating an emotional distance.

Pointing your knee in his direction

Watch the direction a woman’s knee points when she sits with one leg tucked

under the other. If a man is at the end of the sight line you can bet she finds

him interesting. From this relaxed position, she’s able to flash a bit of thigh

and gain her target’s attention.

Dangling a shoe

If a woman is sitting with a man and dangles a shoe off the end of her foot she’s

sending out the message that she’s relaxed and comfortable in his company. In

addition, the foot acts like a phallus as it thrusts itself in and out of her shoe.

Many men become unsettled by this gesture and they don’t know why.

If you want to test a woman’s comfort level as she swings her dangling shoe

off her pedicured toes, say or do something that unsettles her or makes her

anxious and observe how quickly that shoe goes back on her foot.

224 Part IV: Putting the Body into Social and Business Context

Lips, labia, and lipstick

A woman’s labia are in proportion to the thick-

ness of her facial lips. According to zoologist

Desmond Morris, women ‘self-mimic’ their

outer genital lips by making their facial lips wet

by licking them, or using lip gloss, thus creating

a sexual invitation.

When a women is sexually aroused her lips,

breasts, and genitals enlarge and become

redder as blood flows into them. The use of lip-

stick dates back 4,000 years to the time of the

Egyptians. Women would paint their lips to

mimic their sexually aroused and reddened

genitalia. Modern research shows that when

men look at photographs of women wearing dif-

ferent lipstick colours, they are consistently

drawn to the bright reds which they describe as

the most attractive and sensual.