secure principles that could be used instead.
- Marcus booked a (mostly) singles cruise to Brazil before he
and Daria started dating six months ago. Daria doesn’t feel
comfortable with Marcus going on such a trip without her, and
she doesn’t like cruises. When she raises the subject to
Marcus, he responds, “So I have to do everything with you now?
You don’t like stuff like that anyway, so why do you care?
Besides, I’ve already paid for it. What do you want me to do,
lose $3,000?”
Marcus’s reaction is:- Secure
- Insecure
Insecure tactics Marcus used:Secure tactics Marcus could use:Answer: Insecure. Marcus uses a whole slew of insecure tactics.
He generalizes the conflict by attacking her (“What do you want me to
do, lose $3,000?”) and making her sound needy and overly reliant (“So
I have to do everything with you now?”). He doesn’t maintain focus on
the problem, which is Daria’s concern about the possibility that he
won’t remain faithful. He prefers to veer off the topic and make it about
money and Daria’s neediness.
Secure tactics Marcus could use: The best piece of advice for
Marcus would be to maintain focus on the problem at hand. Daria’s