concern is real, and as long as he doesn’t address it, this issue will
never really be resolved.
- Following her boyfriend’s response in situation 1, Daria caves
in. She apologizes for bringing up the issue. After all, this is a
trip he’d planned before they even met. She feels bad that she’s
being so unreasonable, demanding, and dependent.
Daria’s reaction is:- Secure
- Insecure
Insecure tactics Daria used:Secure tactics Daria could use:Answer: Insecure. What’s the matter with Daria? He’s going on a
singles cruise to Brazil six months into their relationship? She should
by all means express her dismay. But instead of openly talking about
her concerns, she backs down. She fears that because she spoke her
mind, the relationship may end, so she tries to undo the damage by
apologizing for raising the subject in the first place. By doing so Daria
is agreeing to a new unspoken pact in the relationship: that her
feelings and concerns are not that important.
Secure tactics Daria could use: She should effectively communicate
her needs; tell Marcus about her concerns, and how anxious the
upcoming vacation makes her feel about the future of their relationship.
Marcus’s reaction to her use of effective communication will be very