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Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit http://www.datingdynamics.com for more information.“Whoah! What’s going on? Is he kidding with me? Does he find me
interesting? Why isn’t he acting like other guys and start talking to try and get
me to go to bed with him? Doesn’t he think I’m attractive?”Sexual Reversal Strategy .................................................................................................................
As I mentioned earlier, most men engage in sexual conversations with women far too
soon, and the immediate result is a turned-off woman. No woman enjoys a sexual innuendo or
hint from a man that he’s interested in her for sex. Why? Because it’s a given. Women know
we’re interested in them for sex. But their first defense is to make sure the man is suitable -
Trustworthy.
That being said, women love to talk about sex, but only when they are initiating the topic.
When they do start talking about sex, it doesn’t mean that they’re ready to have it with you, but
you can be sure that she’s at least somewhat comfortable with you if she’s broaching the topic.
The Sexual Reversal Strategy is essential. It’s a form of Challenge to a woman because
it shows you’re not insecure. It also demonstrates the Three S’s – self-confidence, self-
discipline, and sense of humor. What usually happens is that after a certain amount of time,
after you’ve been demonstrating the Three S’s and she’s starting to feel attraction for you, and
when the woman is curious about your attraction for her, she will either pretend to “slip” and say
something suggestive or she will just start dropping small hints. Here’s how you handle it:
Why does this work? The most important reason is that it simply shows that you’re
different. You’re not like other guys. You don’t move in too fast too soon, and you are giving her
a reason to wonder about her sexual attractiveness. You’re not telling saying she’s ugly or
nasty, but you’re inspiring her to wonder:
Underneath her thoughts, she will feel a pull – an attraction to you – that she can’t
explain, and won’t try to. And you’re doing this without being abrasive or arrogant because
you’re using humor to keep things from being too harsh or offensive. You reverse the male
stereotype and use the female thought pattern (“I need to be romanced ...”, “Romeo ...”) for fun,
and your unwillingness to chase after her sexually draws her in even further. You’re mysterious
about your intentions. Again, you’re giving her the space to walk forward and desire you. That’s
where attraction occurs.
Samantha: “So, what are you saying, that I’m trying to take advantage of you?” (dirty smile)
Nick: “Hey, I’ve just heard what Dr. Ruth said about mixing alcohol and sex. But don’t go too fast
there, tiger. I’m not that easy. You can’t just carry me off to bed like some Romeo. I need to be romanced.”
Samantha: (smiling) “Romeo?”
Nick: (smirk) “I know your type. One minute you’re buying drinks for me, the next you’re trying to
convince me to go back to your house with you. I’m not easy.” (Winks, then gets serious.) “Where did you
get that ring, by the way?”
Samantha: (Plays with her hair and leans in closer.) “This? Umm, I got it in Madrid ...”