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Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit http://www.datingdynamics.com for more information. Appreciation/Affection – to feel unique and special
o Gives massages/baths
o Treats her (on occasion) like royalty
o Cuddling
Drama/Intrigue
o Talk just to talk/Share drama
o Emotional charge
The Three S’s in a Man = Challenge
o Self-confidence
o Self-discipline
o Sense of humor
Consistent behavior (in a long-term mate)
Security
o Provides for her
o Loyal to her
Fun/Excitement
o Being different
Mystery
o Slow disclosure of information
Teases her and treats like another person, not a goddessWOMEN WANT SEX.................................................................................................................................
Up until the last twenty years or so, it was a commonly held misconception that women
were somehow frigid by nature and had no interest in sex. This fallacy was created by men who
thought that since a woman postpones sex, she only “gives it up” to get what she wants – a
faithful husband to provide for her.
Women want sex as much as men, they just have a different timetable and requirements
before they do. There has been a lot of sexual liberation for women, and even though there are
a lot of women that have occasional casual sex, they are still programmed since birth with the
fear of being labeled promiscuous. The label of “slut” is still a fundamental fear of almost all
women, and it’s probably the most damning of judgments a woman can feel is placed on her
value. To avoid thinking of herself as a slut, or “easy,” she manages her cognitive dissonance in
several ways:
- She will probably want to wait until at least the third date to sleep with you – and
that’s if things go very well. There is a certain American cultural norm accepted in
recent years that says that sex is generally acceptable (sometimes expected) on the
third date. Ultimately, though, when you have sex will be dictated by her level of trust
and attraction for you. - She will be turned off by any overt verbal or physical sexual suggestions by you,
even when she wants sex and might like to talk a little trashy. In her mind, she wants
to maintain her ladylike persona, and you should not challenge this. Let her be the
one to bring up sexual topics.