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Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit http://www.datingdynamics.com for more information.I’ve heard answers from two days to two weeks. Here is where some common sense
and self-control will answer the question for you. When is too soon? The same day or even a
day later is just too quick. You never want to appear desperate, and everyone has a different
point of view on what length of time constitutes desperation.
My advice is that it is reasonable for you to wait three to seven days to call. I would
amend this by saying that you never call on a weekend, from Friday through Sunday. You might
call Sunday night, on the premise that you are trying to give her an opportunity to get with you
before your “week fills right up,” but you are unavailable from Friday night to late in the day on
Sunday. You only leave one message, and don’t call several times a day to check on her. (Her
caller-ID will report you as a psycho stalker.) If she doesn’t pick up, you call back once every
two days to give her a chance. Ideally, you are getting so many phone numbers that you won’t
have time to hound one woman, right?
If you find that she will not return your calls, you have the option of what I call “taking it
away” from her. You leave the following message:
“Hello, Sharon, it’s Dave. I met you at _____. You seem to be either
screening your calls or you’re playing hard to get. That’s cute. I figured I’d call you one last time.
I’m curious to get together with you for some coffee and see if you’re really as delightful as I
suspect you might be. Call me.”
You’re just giving her a little challenge to see if she’s got any interest. Sometimes she
might be away on vacation, or genuinely busy, so it pays to make it seem a little more urgent.
However, this is the last time you call her.
What to say when you finally talk to her:
You call her and say: “Hello, Suzie, it’s Dave. I met you at _____. How are you
doing?”
Shut up and let her talk for as long as she needs to. Listen to what she says for early
indications of Red Flags. Then you want to get to the point and get off the phone.
RULE: Phone conversations do not increase a woman’s attraction to you. Face-to-face
conversations where she can see and hear and think about being touched by you are what you
want. You’re not telemarketing; you’re looking for a personal sales meeting.