Boundaries

41 Setting boundaries inevitably involves taking responsibility for your choices. You are the one who makes them. You are the on ...

42 from people who act in destructive ways (Matt. 18:15–17; 1 Cor. 5:9–13). We are not being unloving. Separating ourselves pro- ...

43 “wicked and lazy” servant gave in to. He was not chastised for being afraid; we are all afraid when trying something new and ...

44 ways. Probably the easiest distortions to notice are in personal relationships. We rarely see people as they really are; our ...

45 We often do not actively seek our desires from God, and those desires are mixed up with things that we do not really need. Go ...

46 freely to you, Corinthians, and opened wide our hearts to you. We are not withholding our affection from you, but you are wit ...

47 3. Boundary Problems F ollowing a day-long seminar that we were leading on bibli- cal boundaries, a woman raised her hand and ...

48 Until I was in sixth grade, they were a lot bigger and stronger. They’d take advantage of their size and strength and wale on ...

49 The inability to say no to the bad is pervasive. Not only does it keep us from refusing evil in our lives, it often keeps us ...

50 Avoidants: Saying “No” to the Good The living room suddenly became very quiet. The Bible study group that had been meeting at ...

51 “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and ...

52 the final straw was when Steve began calling Frank at home. An occasional call at home Frank could understand. But almost eve ...

53 There’s no place for someone else’s no. They attempt to get oth- ers to change, to make the world fit their idea of the way l ...

54 woman in Proverbs: “She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong’” (30:20). Believe it or not, compliants ...

55 Finally, controllers are isolated. People stay with them out of fear, guilt, or dependency. If they’re honest, controllers ra ...

56 shouldn’t take on the responsibility of others’ feelings, attitudes, and behaviors, we do have certain responsibilities to ea ...

57 Controllers and Nonresponsives Controlling nonresponsives have a hard time looking past themselves. They see others as respon ...

58 has to do with performance, discipline, initiative, and planning. Relational boundaries refers to the ability to speak truth ...

59 4. How Boundaries Are Developed Jim had never been able say no to anyone, especially to his supervisors at work. He’d moved u ...

60 letting my family down?” Jim paused, struggling for composure. “All my life it’s been this way, Alice. I’ve always feared let ...