Boundaries

121 7 Boundaries and Your Family S usie had a problem that I had seen countless times before. This thirty-year-old woman would r ...

122 Susie had a common problem. She had made choices on the outside. She had moved away from the family she grew up in to pursue ...

123 ing at all. I’m not getting any better.” Fusing with many of her mother’s ideas about her, she wasn’t able to stay separate. ...

124 skates, and wind surfers. Terry and Sherry had all the trappings of success. But, there was one problem. This lifestyle was ...

125 This adult child often hangs out at Mom and Dad’s house, vacations with them, drops off laundry, and eats many meals there. ...

126 By this time, Person B, feeling lonely, calls C, and, in pass- ing, mentions the conflict with A. Person C becomes the confi ...

127 Do not hate your brother in your heart. Rebuke your neigh- bor frankly so you will not share in his guilt. (Lev. 19:17) Ther ...

128 It is good to feel grateful to our parents and to repay them for what they have done for us. But two problems generally crop ...

129 Another reason is that we may not have gone through the biblical transition into adulthood and the spiritual adoption into t ...

130 under guardians and managers and becomes responsible for him or herself. Christians move into another parental relationship ...

131 Resolution of Boundary Problems with Family Establishing boundaries with families of origin is a tough task, but one with gr ...

132 Take in and Receive the Good It is not enough to understand your need. You must get it met. God is willing to meet your need ...

133 something from that person, and even if it is revenge that you want, it keeps you tied to him forever. Refusing to forgive a ...

134 Practice purposeful giving to increase your freedom. Sometimes people who are building boundaries feel that to do someone a ...

135 8. Boundaries and Your Friends M arsha switched on the television, not even noticing which show was on. She was thinking abo ...

136 recreation. They went to the same church and liked the same restaurants. But they were just too nice to each other. They bot ...

137 What do they need? Compliant people need to have sup- portive relationships to plug into, be they support groups, home Bibl ...

138 What are the roots? The compliant probably grew up in a family who taught him to avoid conflict, rather than embrace it. Th ...

139 the attachment, and she can begin to take responsibility for the control that ran her friend off. Now what? At this point, ...

140 boundaries. Cathy would do anything to avoid conflict with friends—especially with Sharon. What is the boundary conflict? S ...