Flow – Psychology of Optimal Experience

ENJOYING SOLITUDE AND OTHER PEOPLE ■ 171 sures that attention can be focused on something that, although painful, is at least co ...

172 ■ FLOW With every passing decade our culture becomes more dependent on information technology. To survive in such an environ ...

ENJOYING SOLITUDE AND OTHER PEOPLE ■ 1 73 It is best to develop this habit early, but it is never too late to do so. In the prev ...

174 ■ FLOW dressed impeccably every evening in their lonely outposts, Dorothy also has learned that to keep control in an alien ...

ENJOYING SOLITUDE AND OTHER PEOPLE ■ 1 75 ordinary circumstances, solo sailors have plenty to keep their minds occupied. Their s ...

176 ■ FLOW Throughout history, people have been born into and have spent their entire lives in kinship groups. Families have var ...

ENJOYING SOLITUDE AND OTHER PEOPLE ■ 1 77 attachment to family members, the cultural context will have a great deal to do with t ...

178 ■ FLOW a few weeks each winter in the Caribbean. Later he decides to marry and have a child. As he realizes these latter goa ...

ENJOYING SOLITUDE AND OTHER PEOPLE ■ 1 79 a better position to help their members develop a rich self than families held togethe ...

180 • FLOW the commitment that an old-fashioned marriage demands, and having made it willingly instead of being compelled by tra ...

ENJOYING SOLITUDE AND OTHER PEOPLE ■ 181 much as possible. If Rick wants to go to a motocross race, and Erica would like to go t ...

182 ■ FLOW visit, parties to go to and talk about afterward, and so on. With time one gets to know the other person well, and th ...

ENJOYING SOLITUDE AND OTHER PEOPLE ■ 183 tunities for action outside those sanctioned by adults. The only outlets they find, all ...

184 • FLOW they may turn to redundant partying, joyriding, malicious gossiping, or drugs and narcissistic introspection to prove ...

ENJOYING SOLITUDE AND OTHER PEOPLE ■ 1 85 When a family has a common purpose and open channels of communication, when it provide ...

186 ■ FLOW It is not surprising that in our studies of the quality of daily experience it has been demonstrated again and again ...

ENJOYING SOLITUDE AND OTHER PEOPLE ■ 1 87 strong links to other adults in the community, ostracization by their peers would not ...

188 • FLOW Aristotle wrote, “For without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all other goods.” To enjoy such one- ...

ENJOYING SOLITUDE AND OTHER PEOPLE ■ 1 89 friends that most people feel they can let their hair down and be them­ selves. Becaus ...

190 • FLOW friendships rarely happen by chance: one must cultivate them as assidu­ ously as one must cultivate a job or a family ...