The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically I

9 Family Matters An explosive child can lay bare many family issues that might never have risen to the surface had the parents b ...

206 The Explosive Child easily frustrated, and explosive. Sometimes parents have difficulties of their own—job stresses, financi ...

Family Matters 207 adaptive way; such interactions may therefore have the primary effect of fueling countless explosions. Fortun ...

208 The Explosive Child child, or being more nurturing toward another. In your family, you’re doing things a little differently ...

Family Matters 209 something now that I think will eventually work better. I think it’s starting to work pretty well. Sister: Wh ...

210 The Explosive Child your role as helper. Eventually the goal is for the kids to work out their difficulties without your ass ...

Family Matters 211 terns are more typical of older explosive kids. But the seeds may be sown early. Although not an exhaustive l ...

212 The Explosive Child spending much time discussing. In fact, this topic is a red herring that just distracts everyone from th ...

Family Matters 213 speak only for yourself, using “I” statements, such as “I worry about your getting to bed so late” or “I feel ...

214 The Explosive Child Things each family member is saying that make an- other family member defensive and how to commu- nicat ...

Family Matters 215 Billy: Stay out of my damn business! That’s what’s best for me! What a shame, because there may actually be w ...

216 The Explosive Child terproductive with a child who may actually have been trying hard to stay on track or who may feel enorm ...

Family Matters 217 Hmmm. Eric may or may not actually be interested in thinking about how to get his homework done earlier. Ei- ...

218 The Explosive Child to him that you can control yourself during discussions, stay on topic, recognize when discussions aren’ ...

Family Matters 219 Partners who are drained by their own difficulties often have little left for a labor-intensive explosive chi ...

220 The Explosive Child Mother: So what should I do? Therapist: Plan B. Another mother felt so drained by being a full-time pare ...

Family Matters 221 sure the grandparents are “with the program.” If grand- parents are an integral part of the family unit they ...

222 The Explosive Child “I’m not the one who flunked out of prep school,” the father jabbed back. “AND I’M NOT THE ONE WHO MADE ...

Family Matters 223 said. “But I’m still wondering if this is a pretty typical conversation.” “Oh, Mitchell would have gotten ins ...

224 The Explosive Child Mitchell chuckled. “He still thinks we’re going to accomplish something by coming here,” he said into th ...