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rest of us, understanding is only the beginning. FROM THEORY TO PRACTICE—DEVELOPING SPECIFIC ATTACHMENT-BASED INTERVENTIONS By u ...

applications for people in all stages of their romantic life. There are specific applications for people who are dating, those i ...

again. GOING FORWARD This book is the product of our translation of attachment research into action. We hope that you, like our ...

2. Dependency Is Not a Bad Word A few years ago, on a TV reality show that features couples who race against each other around t ...

that he took off all his gear and started walking away. Finally, he mustered the courage to take the challenge after all. Becaus ...

Karen’s self-blaming view of herself as too needy and Tim’s obliviousness to his attachment role are not surprising and not real ...

had all of their nutritional needs taken care of but lacked an attachment figure (such as infants raised in institutions or disp ...

Remarkably, the results showed a similar distribution of attachment styles in adults as that found in infants: Here too most res ...

partner acts in a way that undermines your sense of security, you should be able to distance yourself from the situation emotion ...

Laboratory at the University of Virginia. He investigates the mechanisms through which close social relationships and broader so ...

ourselves or how fulfilled we feel on our own. He discovered that once we choose someone special, powerful and often uncontrolla ...

illustrate this principle, let’s take another look at childhood, where attachment starts. Nothing better demonstrates the idea w ...

and whom you can rely on with 100 percent certainty and turn to in times of need. A secure base is a prerequisite for a child’s ...

those goals, and tended to downgrade their goals during the course of the discussion. Back to Karen and Tim, our reality-TV-show ...

elevated as long as you are in physical proximity! The implications of this study are profound: When our partner is unable to me ...

USING THIS BOOK How can this book guide you in looking for love in all the right places and improving your existing relationship ...

clearly and from a place of strength and dignity, but it will also provide valuable information about your partner. The quality ...

PART ONE Your Relationship Toolkit—Deciphering Attachment Styles ...

3. Step One: What Is My Attachment Style? The first step toward applying attachment theory to your life is to get to know yourse ...

Check the small box next to each statement that is TRUE for you. (If the answer is untrue, don’t mark the item at all.) ...