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WHEN FACEBOOK AND “ABANDONMENT” ISSUES MEET Naomi, 33, and Kevin, 30, have been seeing each other exclusively for six months and ...

partner truly wants intimacy, the other feels very uncomfortable when things become too close. This is often the case when one o ...

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Here is what characteristically happens in many anxious-avoidant relationships: TELLTALE SIGNS OF THE ANXIOUS- AVOIDANT TRAP Th ...

the amount of intimacy between you. Life in the inner circle as the enemy. If you are anxious, you find that you’re getting tre ...

every new development in the relationship (getting married, having kids, moving to a new home, making money, or becoming ill) th ...

return to your initial, unsatisfactory status quo (and often have to compromise for less). Any hopes for a better life together ...

9. Escaping the Anxious-Avoidant Trap: How the Anxious-Avoidant Couple Can Find Greater Security If you’ve discovered that most ...

ROLE MODEL Priming for security can be as simple as thinking about secure people around you and how they behave in their relatio ...

points out that we tend to perceive our pets as selfless and loving despite their many misdemeanors: They wake us up at night, d ...

read so far, the relationship inventory will help you see more clearly how your attachment style affects your day-to-day thought ...

to help you recall these reactions. Column 5 is a crucial next step. You will need to reassess these experiences from an attachm ...

Common Anxious Thoughts, Emotions, and Reactions Thoughts Mind reading: That’s it, I know s/he’s leaving me. I’ll never find an ...

I knew this was too good to last. All-or-nothing thinking: I’ve ruined everything, there’s nothing I can do to mend the situati ...

Uncertain Agitated Rejected Unloved Lonely Misunderstood Unappreciated Actions Act out. Attempt to reestablish contact at any c ...

I need to get out of here, I feel suffocated. If s/he was “the one” this kind of thing wouldn’t happen. When I was with (phanto ...

Act hostile, look disdainful. Make critical remarks. Withdraw mentally or physically. Minimize physical contact. Keep emotional ...

Repressing loving feelings and emotions Examples of Secure Principles Be available. Don’t interfere. Act encouragingly. Commu ...

My Working Model—Summarizing the Inventory Can you identify particular situations that are prone to activate (if you are anxious ...

THE TEXT MESSAGE THAT SAVED THE DAY When we interviewed Georgia and Henry for the book, they were constantly quarreling. Accordi ...