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SCORING KEY 11-17: Very low. Your partner definitely doesn’t have this attachment style. 18-22: Moderate. Your partner shows a ...

23-33: High. Your partner definitely has this attachment style. As a rule of thumb, the higher the score, the stronger the incl ...

Score of 23 or above for group C: Your partner/date has an anxious attachment style. This is not necessarily a bad thing as long ...

the two dimensions that determine attachment styles). When trying to answer this question, let go of preconceptions. There is no ...

Don’t rely on one “symptom,” look for various signs. Looking at one behavior, attitude, or belief is not enough to determine y ...

“I don’t want to talk about it.” “Stop analyzing everything!” “What do you want from me? I didn’t do anything wrong.” He or she ...

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Determine whether s/he seeks intimacy and closeness. Assess how preoccupied s/he is with the relationship and how sensitive s/he ...

what I’m not willing to compromise on. Like what? Well, she’ll have to be financially self-sufficient because I already have one ...

example of communicating relationship issues clearly and effectively. She encounters a problem, wants to solve it, and feels con ...

However, with Janet it goes a step further—she views relationships as rare and fragile and believes that any small, inappropriat ...

what is said to what is not said: If you don’t get a clear understanding of why this person hasn’t met “the one” even though he’ ...

more likely to send mixed signals. Also, notice that he doesn’t engage in any game playing—he doesn’t keep track of when Mary re ...

arms of a nurturing, secure partner. ...

PART TWO The Three Attachment Styles in Everyday Life ...

5. Living with a Sixth Sense for Danger: The Anxious Attachment Style The famous seventeenth-century philosopher Baruch Spinoza ...

changed her behavior until she appeared to have completely destabilized. We used to run together around the reservoir in Central ...

with Paula Niedenthal from Blaise Pascal University in Clermont- Ferrand, France, found a unique way of measuring the vigilance ...