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sensitive to small fluctuations in your partner’s moods and actions, and although your senses are often accurate, you take your ...

Your comfort with intimacy and closeness (or the degree to which you try to avoid intimacy). Your anxiety about your partner’s ...

you off (i.e., are high on relationship anxiety)—you’re probably anxious. If you feel uncomfortable when things become too clos ...

to greet her. Once in the safety of her presence, he is quick to be reassured, calm down, and resume play activity. Avoidant: Wh ...

4. Step Two: Cracking the Code—What Is My Partner’s Style? Figuring out other people’s attachment styles is usually trickier tha ...

compromised and you tend to create a rosy picture of him or her. Anything that doesn’t fit into this picture fades into the back ...

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SCORING KEY 11-17: Very low. Your partner definitely doesn’t have this attachment style. 18-22: Moderate. Your partner shows a ...

originate from very different romantic attitudes). In that case, go ahead to the “Golden Rules” on page 62 to make a better asse ...

to slights and their distress is compounded. This does sound daunting, but before you call it quits, it is important to know tha ...

way for her to keep you at a distance and maintain her separate life. You have to look at the whole picture and see how this beh ...

This is probably one of the most important ways to uncover your partner’s attachment style: Don’t be afraid to express your need ...

During an argument, Pat told her boyfriend, Jim, that it bothered her that they never made plans ahead of time. She felt more co ...