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Golden Rules: Determine whether s/he seeks intimacy and closeness. Assess how preoccupied s/he is with the relationship and how ...

Don’t rely on one “symptom,” look for various signs. Assess his/her reaction to effective communication. Listen and look for wha ...

after he falls in love he will not compromise, that he values his independence, that he’s mistrustful. Notice how he even talks ...

couplehood. Although Mark did not meet her definition of the “ideal man,” she made the mental transition without much hesitation ...

I just ended my relationship with Amanda. I’m very disappointed, but I know I could never have spent my life with her. We dated ...

had told her about all my relationships and was not holding anything back, she looked puzzled and asked if I hadn’t felt I was m ...

heart there is no chance that someone could enter. I will not give in to desperation. I deserve to be happy! Attachment Style: _ ...

PART TWO The Three Attachment Styles in Everyday Life ...

5. Living with a Sixth Sense for Danger: The Anxious Attachment Style The famous seventeenth-century philosopher Baruch Spinoza ...

pager and cell phone with her (and in those days cell phones were relatively big and heavy!). She would alternate checking first ...

expression (e.g., anger) and gradually evolves into one displaying a neutral expression. Participants were asked to stop the mov ...

Thoughts and Feelings That Compel You to Seek Closeness with Your Partner Thinking about your mate, difficulty concentrating on ...

resilient self, she looks back at the whole experience with bewilderment. She can’t believe she wasted her time in therapy exami ...

While Emily was with David, in terms of relationships, she lived her life in the danger zone. She felt like a tightrope walker w ...

almost constant sense of threat to the relationship. She was always busy trying to minimize it by staying close to him—be it by ...

Ryan, who has an anxious attachment style, has a sixth sense for attachment-related cues; he is very much in tune with the small ...

running into him/her. Withdrawing: Sitting silently “engrossed” in the paper, literally turning your back on your partner, not ...

Protest behavior is any action that tries to reestablish contact with your partner and get their attention. There are many ways ...

Understanding the attachment system is crucial for people with an anxious attachment style. Therein lies their chance for a happ ...

style going well with secures. Why is this so? And most important, how can you find happiness and avoid unnecessary heartache? G ...