The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically I

Learning Curves 165 Mother: What’s the matter, honey? Charlotte (rubbing her eyes): I just don’t want to go. Mother (squatting d ...

166 The Explosive Child So statements like “OK, we’ll do that later” or “We’ll go there soon” or “You can do that for a while” h ...

Learning Curves 167 On a related topic, some kids don’t adapt well when a solution doesn’t go exactly as planned. Mike, a remark ...

168 The Explosive Child on identifying pathways and triggers would be exactly the same. Kids respond to being understood and to ...

Learning Curves 169 plosive kids), and your child’s medicine (especially if it’s a stimulant) is in full effect during school ho ...

170 The Explosive Child But here’s what a Proactive Plan B conversation might look like on the lying issue: Adult (Empathy): I’v ...

Learning Curves 171 Child: OK, I won’t lie anymore! Adult (Clarifying the Problem): Uhm, that would be wonderful. But I think I’ ...

172 The Explosive Child Adult: So we both have something to work on, don’t we? Child: Yup. Adult: What should we do if I slip up ...

Learning Curves 173 Parent: No, wait—I just want to talk. I’m not going to lecture you. Daughter: Yeah, right. Parent: Look, I k ...

174 The Explosive Child Daughter: Oh, my God! I cannot believe we’re talking about this! This is so embarrassing! I’m not going ...

Learning Curves 175 Parent: You don’t think you’re too young? Are you sure you can handle all the feelings that go along with it ...

176 The Explosive Child difficulties and respond in a more productive fashion, then the child begins to explode less. Then the p ...

8 Teach Your Children Well We’ve covered a fair amount of ground already. At this point, I hope you have a sense of your child’s ...

178 The Explosive Child mind that you may feel as if you’re slogging through mud in your first attempts at Plan B. It can take a ...

Teach Your Children Well 179 skills, you’ve got more work to do. Let’s take ’em one at a time. Identifying and Articulating Conc ...

180 The Explosive Child Child: No. I just don’t want to. Parent: Well, I can think of a few reasons why someone wouldn’t want to ...

Teach Your Children Well 181 ample, tags in his clothing are bothersome, he’s having difficulty verbalizing that concern. It wou ...

182 The Explosive Child Child: No. Parent: I have an idea. Would you like to hear it? Child: OK. Parent: How about “The label’s ...

Teach Your Children Well 183 are bothersome. So it’s often productive to teach a more general set of phrases that can be applied ...

184 The Explosive Child Considering a Range of Possible Solutions As you know, the third step of Plan B is the Invitation. This ...