The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically I

Learning Curves 145 motivation to not explode, he’s not even close to being “held accountable.” If you’re not teaching a child t ...

146 The Explosive Child very different way and with a completely different out- come. What about the real world? What if my chil ...

Learning Curves 147 your thinking that keeps you from speeding, thinking about the likely outcomes of, and who else is likely to ...

148 The Explosive Child Parent (Define the Problem): The thing is, I can’t let you run in front of cars because I don’t want you ...

Learning Curves 149 Clark: What if I forget to hold your hand? Parent: I’ll try to remind you before we get there. Clark: What i ...

150 The Explosive Child “Well, I’m more concerned about what it was that caused him to hit you,” the therapist responded. “What ...

Learning Curves 151 So what should I do if my child actually does explode? If your child is exploding, it’s a pretty sure bet yo ...

152 The Explosive Child I’m not that quick on my feet. I can’t always decide what Plan to use on the spur of the moment. All the ...

Learning Curves 153 “Alycia was ver y upset that we’re going to have to change our plans for her birthday,” she replied. “That m ...

154 The Explosive Child sion until the circumstances are more ideal. Do you think Alycia would have been able to delay the discu ...

Learning Curves 155 skills, and if Plan A is simply causing explosions and hostil- ity and misery, then it’s hard to imagine why ...

156 The Explosive Child Parent: Billy, I know that you like playing with your friends after school and that it’s sometimes hard ...

Learning Curves 157 I’ve been taught that it’s important for parents to be consistent with each other in front of the child so t ...

158 The Explosive Child For how long should I do Plan B? How much progress should I expect from my child, and how fast? For how ...

Learning Curves 159 tion, and intensity of explosions. And, of course, an in- crease in the use of Plan B also means that numero ...

160 The Explosive Child The first thing you’d want to be convinced of is that your child actually needs additional motivation. O ...

Learning Curves 161 Parent: I don’t know if punishing you would make me feel better. And it certainly hasn’t kept you from break ...

162 The Explosive Child On the other hand, it can be productive to help par- ents and children agree to go their separate ways—w ...

Learning Curves 163 My child becomes frustrated about things that don’t involve interactions with me or other people. He just ge ...

164 The Explosive Child in the car, we’re in a hurry, and I don’t feel like going through this with you right now! Go get me my ...