The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically I

6 Plan B Old patterns are hard to break, so repetition is a crucial ingredient for keeping things moving in the right direction. ...

86 The Explosive Child Conventional explanations for your child’s explosions—inept parenting, poor motivation, atten- tion seek ...

Plan B 87 Street—until his physical education teacher, whom we had neglected to enlighten, demanded that the child wear a sweats ...

88 The Explosive Child Problem Solving that will have you feeling like a pushover. Third, if you haven’t already, you may have t ...

Plan B 89 for bed at night, boredom, shifting from one activity to another, sibling interactions, being hungry just before dinne ...

90 The Explosive Child child is not meeting your homework completion or teeth brushing expectations or if these expectations hei ...

Plan B 91 in gear,” and the threat or imposition of consequences are Plan A responses as well. Now, these might sound like perfe ...

92 The Explosive Child pursue your expectations, and live happily with your child without Plan A? Yes, you most certainly can. P ...

Plan B 93 clusion that Plan C is the equivalent of giving in. Actu- ally, giving in is what happens when you start off using Pla ...

94 The Explosive Child his mother brought him to the supermarket. Eduardo exploded in other situations as well, of course, but n ...

Plan B 95 Mother: When should I try taking him into supermarkets again? Therapist: When you’ve resolved some of the more importa ...

96 The Explosive Child PLAN B As you’ve read, Plan B involves doing the name of the ap- proach: Collaborative Problem Solving. W ...

Plan B 97 he needs to successfully navigate frustrations and de- mands for flexibility on his own, you’re fired. Who fired you? ...

98 The Explosive Child This next part is absolutely crucial. There are three steps for doing Plan B: Empathy (plus Reassurance) ...

Plan B 99 It’s not exactly clear why you’d want to blow any child’s concern off the table, but it should be crystal clear why yo ...

100 The Explosive Child likely to put a solution on the table than a concern. Your job? Make sure it’s the child’s concern that ...

Plan B 101 Child: I’m not doing my homework. Adult (Initial Empathy): You’re not doing your homework. What’s up? Child: It’s too ...

102 The Explosive Child Sometimes empathy alone isn’t completely sufficient for keeping the child calm. He might need some reass ...

Plan B 103 have come up before, that this isn’t the first time home- work has been an issue, and that scary movies have been a c ...

104 The Explosive Child Define the Problem It is in the second step of Plan B that the adult places his or her concern on the ta ...