The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically I

Plan B 105 (note that all are continuations of the Proactive Plan B discussions above): Adult (Empathy): I know that your medici ...

106 The Explosive Child Adult (Empathy, with an attempt to clarify): I’ve noticed that homework has been a struggle lately. But ...

Plan B 107 step is called the invitation because the adult is actually inviting the child to solve the problem collaboratively b ...

108 The Explosive Child and has been waiting (not so patiently) for you to give him the chance. So, as it relates to solving pro ...

Plan B 109 solution that is doable (by both parties), realistic, and mu- tually satisfactor y. If a solution isn’t doable, reali ...

110 The Explosive Child suring that your concerns are addressed. Thus, you’re set- ting limits when using Plan B as well. Of cou ...

Plan B 111 Child: Yeah. Adult (Define the Problem, then Invitation): I’m not too happy about it either. The thing is, I’m a litt ...

112 The Explosive Child he says you should keep taking it. Maybe he’s had other kids who got sick to their stomach on this medic ...

Plan B 113 Adult (Empathy, with an attempt to clarify): I’ve noticed that homework has been a struggle for us lately. But I don’ ...

114 The Explosive Child that I thought I was supposed to be practicing writing with you at home, too. But I haven’t spoken to Mr ...

Plan B 115 Mother: Davis, it’s time to go to your swim lesson. Davis (playing with Legos at the kitchen table): I’m not going. I ...

116 The Explosive Child Mother: I might have an idea. Would you like to hear it? Davis: Fine! Mother: Can you take the Legos wit ...

Plan B 117 Davis (starting to pack up his Legos): I’m not taking a swim lesson, so don’t try to make me. Look! I told you the Le ...

118 The Explosive Child given the hand they’ve been dealt, their expectations for their child are truly realistic; (2) think abo ...

Plan B 119 nation of those two options brings you no closer to col- laboratively and durably solving problems with your child. F ...

120 The Explosive Child lems and tr y using Proactive Plan B with your child at an opportune time. If it goes well, terrific. If ...

Plan B 121 Plan B consists of three steps: Empathy (plus Reas- surance), Define the Problem, and the Invitation. If you don’t d ...

122 The Explosive Child discussion of Plan B and more examples of Proactive Plan B. DRAMA IN REAL LIFE Mickey, Minnie ...Meltdow ...

Plan B 123 Nothing to be gained there. That left only Emergency Plan B and Plan C. Going back into the park for cotton candy wou ...

124 The Explosive Child candy. Can you think of something else you’d like to eat on the way home besides cotton candy?” “I want ...