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When you get flooded with positive memories, ask a close friend for a reality check. Remind yourself that your attachment syste ...

PART FOUR The Secure Way—Sharpening Your Relationship Skills ...

11. Effective Communication: Getting the Message Across USING EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION TO CHOOSE THE RIGHT PARTNER After a few da ...

answer as to why he wasn’t interested in physical contact, she did get a clear picture about their future together—there was non ...

wondering what Serge’s particular issue might be. So, affecting a coquettish smile, she simply said, “Can I have a kiss?” Though ...

your well-being first, your future together has promise. If he or she brushes your concerns aside as insignificant, or makes you ...

important your well-being is to your partner: Does s/he try to get to the bottom of your concerns? Does s/he respond to the iss ...

being, together with Stephen Read of the University of Southern California, who studies the neural network models of social reas ...

whether he cares enough to listen to your worries, reassure you, and do whatever it takes to make you feel safe and loved. There ...

her best to make it happen. She also began to discover that more often than not, the reasons why people behave unkindly toward h ...

things get too close, and then learn how to communicate that need. Explain to your partner in advance that you need some time al ...

Monique and Greg have been going out for a couple of months, and the Fourth of July is around the corner. Monique plans to celeb ...

this way, but it would expose a smoking gun. Two or three such evading tactics would probably inspire Greg to look for love else ...

IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO USE EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION, EVEN IF YOU START OFF ON THE WRONG FOOT Larry got a disturbing e-mail from w ...

Focus on your needs. The idea is to get your needs across. When expressing your needs, we are always referring to needs that ta ...

believe that many of your needs are illegitimate. But whether they are legitimate or not for someone else is beside the point. T ...

You are allowing both yourself and your partner to strive for a secure, mutually dependent bond. COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY 101 ...

1. ___ 2. ___ 3. ___ Which of the above actions do I feel most comfortable bringing up and discussing? Use your response to this ...

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It’s important to remember that even with effective communication, some problems won’t be solved immediately. What’s vital is yo ...